One way to get better...Be intentional with people you are spending time with.
In case you haven't heard of the law of averages, it simply states that you are the average of the 5 people you spend the most time with.
Who do you spend the most time with?
Let us add some simple numbers to this thought. If you want to be a 9 at home, work, and in life, but you associate with people who are on average a 6, then according to this principle, you will remain a 6.
How do I change my law of averages?
You have to be intentional.
Find times to break out of your routine and seek out wisdom from others. Coffee and lunch are great times to learn. Surround yourself with greatness. Be humble and seek to listen and learn.
The road isn't instantaneous. It is slow and hard work. Let's be honest, that's why there aren't many 9's and 10's.